Thursday, December 22, 2011

Can I stand on my soapbox for just a minute...

Nothing prompted this...just casual observation through recent interactions both in real life and via FB/blogs.

Girls, can we work really hard on something this next year? Truly, the "drama" in my life is pretty minimal. But, I think that's because I work hard at choosing to ignore it. I am noticing more and more a trend amongst all of us. Whether in social situations, on Facebook (WORST CULPRIT), blogs, playgroups, girls' nights out, and on and on, we are our own worst enemy.

So, for 2012, let's cut this junk out. Let's stop posting 'articles' online (blogs, FB, etc) that are not so subtly implying some method/choice of parenting is better than others or ambiguious call outs about 'I guess you know who your real girlfriends are'. I used to think men were so competitive. Be around a group of women long enough and you will see fierce competition about who is the busiest, most tired, most stressed, who only cooks from scratch because she loves her family so much, who nursed and co-slept longest and who hasn't had a moment to herself since 1994.

Don't forget stay-at-home vs work-outside-the-home, in shape vs outta shape, organic eating vs non-organic, scarf wearer vs no scarfs, jeans tucked in boots vs boots under jeans, college-educated vs non-college-educated, married vs not married. Seriously, this list could go on and on.

We all, apparently, want to be the martyr. God knows how I have fallen (and sometimes still do!) prey to this way of thinking! And, we also want to believe the choices we make are best. Embrace it, girl. The choices you make for you and your family are the best for you and your family. I love it! Go for it!! Just do it with an attitude that someone else might choose differently and that's great.

Let's call this what it is...we are allowing the enemy to divide us. We have to be savvy to his tactics!! So, my call to action for all us girls in 2012 is this: Let's stand united...shoulder to shoulder...supporting one another and loving each other even though the choices we make might be incredibly different.

Soapbox moment done.

1 comment:

Arianne said...

I especially loved the last paragraph. I don't think we realize how we fall into this without realizing that we are there in the middle of that particular pit. It takes united friends like you said to help throw us a rope when that is were we find ourselves. Thanks for putting a ray of light in a dark spot. :)